Friends Forever

Stop taking my picture

She stood up by the door today! She is getting so good at it!

Such a sweet little face!

Rough day. She is sound asleep in this picture. HAHA!

We made a trek out to a very far away library for story time this morning, only to get there as story time ended and everyone was walking out. It was pretty disappointing. Luckily Eloah had no idea she missed anything. We decided to hang out and look around for a minute to make the drive somewhat worth while. There was another little girl in the children's section and Eloah was very interested in befriending her. It was pretty adorable to watch her try to get the little girl's attention and to smile anytime the other little girl would look in her direction! Eventually Eloah wore her down and the little girl gave her numerous hugs and talked to her. I'd guess the other little girl was about 5 years old, she was standing at the computer and playing a game. Eloah pulled herself up on the chair next to her a few times and tried to see what she was doing and grab at her arms. I couldn't believe how persistent she was. She is so eager to be a bigger kid! I think she needs to slow down though!

Then we did a grocery store run (as usual for a Monday) and played around the house. I'm thinking Eloah might have another tooth, in addition to the two that have cut thru this week, because she is acting like she is still a little uncomfortable. And, as you can tell by the last picture, she is pooped. Haha! 

I mentioned the other day that I wanted to expand on the evolution of friendships since becoming a mom, so I thought I would do so today!

I know, personally, I have felt some of my friends "pull away" since I became a mom. The excuse of "I assumed you were busy with the baby" is a popular one. On the other hand, I feel uncomfortable reaching out to the same friends because all I want to talk about is Eloah. In my defense though, when you ask me "How are you?" my answer would obviously have to do with Eloah as she is HOW I am these days. I don't necessarily blame them or myself for the drift, I think it is rather natural. I still do have friends who don't have children. I just think those are the friends who were MEANT to be in my life or maybe I just had a more well rounded friendship with them. I think it is very healthy to maintain non-child related relationships which is why I do make an effort for the few that I still have. I sometimes feel like people who don't have children have a hard time understanding some of the choices you make as a parent and sometimes don't understand the change in priorities. We have all heard about the friend who "really changed" when they had kids. Yeah, thats kind of inevitable! I know that one day those people will (maybe) have kids and it will all make sense to them, but until then it is not my job to defend myself or my decisions just to keep our friendship. I also don't think, sometimes, people realize how insensitive their words (and actions) can be when it comes to my relationship with my child and my child in general. As all you moms know, you can't fathom the intense feelings you will have for your child until they are here. So because of that, I understand that someone without a child may not get why I feel the way I feel. In that same thought, I understand that other moms may deal with these same feelings differently but that doesn't change the love for their child.

There is a lot that could be expanded on in this topic so maybe this would need to be an ongoing post. Mostly the difference I see in the friendships that I have kept and the ones I have outgrown is support. That is what I look for in a friend. And maybe to tell me if I have something in my teeth after lunch.